The initial ohhh shit hasnt worn off totally however I am getting increasingly comfortable with the change that is going to hit us in a few months time. I may be slightly deluding myself, however lets see what happens.
Since i last updated, a number of things have happened. The first scan was an interesting event. Your wife and you are brought in to a room with a very understanding midwife. I must say, our midwife was lovely, very enthusiastic about our news. I must take my hat off to midwives, as they are all great (the ones i have met), because I think eventually I would just turn round and go through the motions of a job. Midwives get involved, they are a critical member of the team and they appreciate how much of a change this is going to be especially for first time parents.
The scan begins, and I will be honest, I was slightly frightened that I didnt feel emotional and want to cry at the sight of my son or daughter on the screen, I didnt feel a connection yet. This is something I have chatted to a couple of friends who have unfortunately been through miscarriages with their partners. They are devastated at the loss of a baby and concerned for their partners health, however they have a degree of guilt as they dont feel as connected as their partner does. This I am sure is only natural given their partner is carrying their child.
I degrees, the scan went great and nothing to be concerned about. It is scary how much you can see, gone are the days where you look and have to take the midwifes word that there is something there! We didnt go for the 3D or 4D scans you can get these days, I dont think you need to go to that extreme!!!
Our next appointment was at 16 weeks, and compared to the 12 week scan was very quick. During this appointment, there wasnt a full scan however we were able to hear the heartbeat which didnt bring a dose of reality again, and to be honest I probably felt more of a connection upon hearing the heart beat than I didnt at 12 weeks.